Lawn games or no games during the cocktail hour? As the preferred wedding DJ in Estes Park for the best Black Canyon Inn wedding and receptions, here’s a few thoughts on what has quickly become the biggest debate in the wedding entertainment field that Pinterest keeps showing on pins.
Yes, it’s that balance of providing something entertaining and tasteful for guests to watch or do while post ceremony photos go on and on, yet, providing something that will not detract from you as the guests of honor. Something that will not taint the real reason guests are there at your wedding in Estes Park. (Honestly, otherwise, just bring in TVs and put “the game” on during the wedding reception. Yep, let everyone pile around the TV with the Bronco pr Super Bowl on during your wedding.) Sadly, this does actually happen at weddings; usually during NFL and college football weekends and weekends during the playoffs of every major sport. Unfortunately, the bartender takes it upon himself to entertain guests with the game on, appeasing them, while the bride is in the bathroom crying.
So, is there a way to keep focus tastefully on you? Sure. We have some great ideas for just that!
First of all, we ALWAYS recommend that NO TVs are on at the bar, period. You are the focus and should never have to compete with something they can read about in the paper, watch highlights on ESPN or are probably recording it anyway.
Secondly, never have the DJ/MC announce scores or game updates during your wedding unless you want this to compete with the emotion, drama and special moments of meaning a wedding should entail. Doing so, creates instant distractions. It also fuels anticipation and pressure for the venue, or bartender, to turn on the TV. Trust us…guests will live if they have to wait.
Wait a minute, I thought this was about an Estes Park wedding DJ’s insight on wedding lawn games?
So what about the lawn games you see all over on Pinterest now? We know… it sounds cool and the pictures look great with people smiling and having fun, but, a lot of wedding guests (believe it or not) are not capable of playing a game for the enjoyment, conversation or for the company of others. Instead, they seek to turn every moment into a hard core, competitive “winner take all” match. Yes, there’s always “that” one guy…or groups of them.
What you don’t see is how guests feel or actually hear what they are saying with the lawn games. We do. In a recent Estes Park wedding interview, we talked about:
Lawn-style games promote little “cliques” of three to four guests roaming from game to game over a large area instead of actually interacting or connecting.
Secondly, because this happens during the summer time, guests frequently comment they are too hotand sweaty from the lack of shade, and of course, in formal attire; ladies in heels on un-level grass or worse yet, the lawn watered the day before. Guys are sporting ties and jackets baking. Everyone is hot.
Then, there’s a little disagreement on rules, and of course, “that” guy emerges. The super competitive guy that just has to win at everything. You know “that” guy.
The biggest problem?
Fast forward a little and it’s now time for the toast or cake. Your DJ/MC announces these key events several times in an attempt to gather wandering guests to a central area. Unfortunately, a majority of these guests don’t want these wedding highlights to “interrupt” their intense game of bean bag toss, bocce ball, ring toss, giant jenga or croquet. These trendy lawn games all too often become more important than the couple they came to celebrate with in the exact same manner “the big game” on TV is a distraction when the focus should be on the bride and groom.
So, our advice, leave them out. Or, if you decide you simply have to have them, then only have them for the cocktail hour and no longer. Once the cocktail hour is over, have a trusted friend, family member or wedding planner / coordinator put them completely away with instructions you don’t want them out again. That way, you are the focus on your day.
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Matt Martindale – Amore’ DJ Entertainment, Wedding Lighting & Décor, Interactive Photo Booth
*Professional Wedding MC / 13 Time Award Winning Colorado Wedding DJ Expert™
*WeddingWire Bride’s Choice Award Winner (Top 5 percent of all Wedding Professionals Nationally)