We’ve all heard about personality tests…red, blue, A, C, lion, dog, whatever the results, but does this really apply to selecting a DJ for your wedding?
You bet it does! Here’s how:
In the end, DJs will fall into one of four categories. Categories I didn’t make up but come from the wisdom in collaborating (and confirmed) by countless other wedding professionals in a variety of service areas, from: venues, caterers, photographers, etc. Yes, these are amazingly accurate.
#1) Wedding DJs who are organized. It’s about creating and maintaining a seamless, worry free flow for the Bride, Groom and family. Not necessarily type A, or necessarily being time-line driven, but the process and order of events is important from an entertainment perspective. These guys get it. Things just flow and an emphasis on ensuring no worries for the Bride, Groom or family. When bad things happen, they are seamlessly handled without the couple ever knowing about it. As a result, the fun happens as a natural outflow because of the meticulous preparation done ahead of time. This person is usually a full-time professional wedding DJ, has all the licenses and the required DJ liability insurance. They are serious about their work.
Pro – everything is well organized, personalized and every detail is thought of from an entertainment flow perspective. Always thinking 2, 3, 4 steps ahead and how each part intersects with the big picture. The perfect music is played at the right time, reading the crowd well, and the whole event customized specific for each client. The process and how things will go is evident by how they do business – their organization skills, continually refining and improving their craft, well polished and is clearly evident by how thorough their process is. This should be very apparent in the first appointment. Brides know they will get to relax and enjoy their day, and everyone will have fun.
Con – Brides who want just a party and thrive on spontaneity may not like the formality of the flow at this type of wedding this may provide.
#2) DJs who are only about the fun. The fun is the focus. These wedding DJs falsely believe they “are” the show. Yes, more of the typical radio DJ, or an east coast – west coast style mobile DJ who tend to bring crazy costumes, goofy hats, lame LED DJ facades all lit up and use a cheesy wedding DJ “shtick” to their weddings with things like: singing along with songs on the mic; crazy self proclaimed dances; or when they turn on the mic, they feel the need to tell a joke or hit on a bridesmaid with a tasteless “cat call” from across the room. A fair warning though, Brides continually comment that when meeting with these DJs at the first appointment, they were friendly but felt like they just met with a stereotypical “used car salesmen.” Her focus was on the fun yet knew deep down these DJs weren’t genuine. These wedding DJs generally do this part time, often carry no liability insurance. Basically weekend warriors who bounce from event to event for beer money, girl’s phone numbers or extra cash.
Pro – It’s all about the fun. Who likes a great party? Everyone. That will be the focus.
Con – Getting to the fun is the sole focus. Wedding structure or formalities are often missed. Things run out of order, if they run at all. Names will be mis-pronounced, and very little (if any) organization exists. Generally a beer in one hand and a mic in the other and what happens, happens. The Father – Daughter dance may happen on his time, but he’s oblivious to the fact that guests are still in the buffet line, or Dad’s actually in the restroom when he plays the song. He didn’t bother to let Dad know, the Bride or even the Photographer know ahead of time. There stands the poor Bride alone on the dance floor while their dance song plays. Yes, you might even get a 2 to 7 page pathetic “planner” with some fill in the blanks (if you are lucky) – but you’re basically on your own because they just don’t know, or are inaccessible because they are working their real job. These DJs tend to erase any personalized aspects altogether; yes, even something as simple as names to the point the married couple is referred to as “Bride and Groom” all night on the mic instead of using their actual names. To these DJs, it’s about the party…and they truly believe that as the DJ, they “are” the party rather than keeping the Bride and Groom the tasteful focus.
#3) DJs who focus on the technology. It’s ALL about the technology and trying show and tell how big their speakers are, what kind of sound they bring (ie. Bose speakers, etc), how many watts of sound they can deafen your guests with, how many LED up-lights, how many songs they have in their music library, or brag about their computer or software they use. It’s all about the technology and toys.
Pro – It will sound good, and probably look good too! They’ll have back up gear, and back up for their back up for their back up. These guys will probably have just about any song ever made with them and readily available on at least three on demand sources, including a 100 Terra bite hard drive synced to a secret satellite installation on Mars. Yes, even the odd song request a guest may spontaneously ask for that only one person on the planet has ever heard of – he’ll have it. Worse yet, he’ll play it too.
Con – It’s all about how their gear. What kind, how big, and how loud their speakers are, what kind of lights they have, and how many songs they bring. The focus tends to be solely gear, music and the tech side. Yes, it’ll be loud, real loud. Probably really bright too. Details with the flow are often discarded with virtually no understanding of why things happen, when they happen or who’s involved. These DJs inadvertently survive from wedding to wedding only by the instructions of others (often the Bride, Mother, coordinator or caterer.) They are especially oblivious from an entertainment flow. They are often very poor in their ability to read the crowd because their focus is on the gear and music. They thrive on being able to proudly tap their chest when they play any obscure song request at a moment’s notice rather than the skill and experience to read the crowd to play the right dance song at the right time.
#4) DJs who are the “creepy guys.” Okay, I didn’t make this one up, but I’ve have had so many Brides and wedding professionals tell me about DJs who meet this description. Often people pleasers and fake, quiet, witty, almost shy DJs at times who sit back and just “watch” things with an indecisive, prowling stare. In the end, the wedding “just kind of happened,” but there’s that looming vibe that something just isn’t right with the DJ. In fact, one recent wedding photographer described these creepy DJs this way: “it’s like a child sex offender being Santa at a mall.” Ok, that was an odd description, yes, creepy for sure…and certainly gets her point across. Truthfully, I don’t really know how to describe the pros and cons on this one because it’s just creepy, yet I’m told these DJs do in fact exist.
So, what’s the point?
Simple. I think the main key is, the Colorado wedding DJ you hire is your Master of Ceremonies. This is the very person representing you to your guests. The “Host” if you will, that takes on the responsibility for presiding over the timing of all the events and unfolds the ideas to create the personality for your celebration. Otherwise, if none of this matters, you’d have an i-pod and a friend do the wedding – right?
In case you can’t tell, we’re a #1 in the description above as a company. We’re going to have tons of fun at your wedding too, only because everything is so well prepared ahead of time. We see our role as MC (Master of Ceremonies) to create, build then maintain a seamless sequence of events, read the crowd, play great music and be tastefully involved; all from an entertainment perspective.
Let’s just consider one common wedding highlight, the toast. So, before announcing it’s time for the toast:
Who has checked to make sure the catering staff has all the dishes cleared? (so that the staff isn’t clearing dishes after dinner that could create a visible distraction, as well as the noise of dishes being cleared during the toast)
Who has checked to make sure all the champagne (or special drink) is poured? For which guests? (is it just the bride and groom? The head table? Parent tables? Everyone? Is it “drink in hand” where everyone gets their own drink from the bar?
Who is prepping the best man, and all those speaking on your behalf, before the toast?
Who is showing the best man, and all those speaking on your behalf, how to position and properly hold the mic?
Who is making sure the bride and groom are in fact ready for the toast and also get a friendly ten minute advance notice?
Who reminds each person toasting or speaking on your behalf to bring their champagne glass up when they toast?
Who makes sure the photographer and videographer are ready to go and also receive the same ten minute advance notice so that if they need to change out a memory card, swap out lenses or get fresh batteries, they have time to do so?
Who asks the photographer and videographer where they specifically would like the newlyweds and those toasting to stand so they can get the best photograph / video (since natural lighting depending on the time of day from when the reception actually starts).
Who is making sure everything is flowing seamless so that you get to fully enjoy your day stress-free?
Amore’ DJ Entertainment.
That’s what a professional Colorado wedding MC/DJ will do from a wedding entertainment and flow perspective. I can promise that your Caterer won’t do any of that. The photographer won’t. The venue or site person won’t. Wedding coordinators won’t either. Yet, from an entertainment flow, this all needs to happen for a seamless, smooth flowing wedding – and this example is just the toast. Now imagine the whole wedding celebration with a series of “special” wow moments that that need to seamlessly flow.
Your job is to relax, celebrate and enjoy the day so you aren’t frantically trying to organize everybody and keep the flow moving.
So, as you shop for a Colorado wedding DJ and want to know what questions to ask your DJ, let us know. We have a great list of “must ask” questions for a sneak peek on how your wedding will really go.
Matt Martindale – Amore’ Wedding Lighting & Décor
* 7 Time Award Winning Colorado Wedding DJ / MC
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