Having had the opportunity to personally perform at nearly 1,500 Colorado weddings, from an elegant wedding in Estes Park at Della Terra Mountain Chateau, a fun wedding at Pelican Lakes golf course in Windsor, or the rustic chic country feel of burlap and lace with boots at the barn at Memorial Park in Evergreen, I’ve seen it all. As the experienced Colorado wedding DJ and Master of Ceremonies and repeated speaker at our national industry conference (Mobile Beat) in front of 1,000+ DJs, I get asked all the time, “what three secrets you have to ensure their wedding is the best wedding reception ever?”
Simple, and believe it or not, the three secrets to make your Colorado wedding the best wedding reception ever are quite simple:
1) Sounds basic, but experience tends to show that the most successful wedding receptions result from newlyweds that are RELAXED. That means hiring competent, professional Colorado wedding experts, and then actually trusting us to do what they do best. Your job is to simply relax, and enjoy your day, not be running around, micromanaging if a napkin is a half inch to the left on one place setting in a room set for 120 guests.
2) Take time to EAT. If stress, alcohol and dancing are all added together (and especially a wedding in the Colorado mountains at altitude), your wedding celebration will not be as fun as we know it could be. This is most critical for the bride! She will rarely have time to eat. Trust us! After the fabulous grand introductions, there will be a steady stream of guests coming up to congratulate the bride, commenting on the dress, praising her hair and make up, gawking at the new wedding ring, taking photos, and offering a warm hug. So, the opportunity to eat is very short. The groom, however, will always be sitting silently and shoveling food in to his mouth. So, when the meal is over, the bride’s plate barely has two bites consumed, the groom, well…his plate is completely clean. We see it all the time. So, make sure to eat. In fact, take time to eat throughout the day, and definitely have a plate of simple, non-messy appetizers while you take post wedding ceremony photos. If your Colorado caterer won’t do that, or it’s not in the budget, make your own “snack pack” with a couple bottles of water, granola bars, grapes, cheese and crackers and snack.
Be a good example
3) Every guest at your wedding reception will feel (and do) exactly whatever it is you both do. You are the thermostat of the celebration. You set the tone for what your wedding guests do to follow. Yes, the two of you are the main focus as to why everyone is there….which means guest will always look to you (the guests of honor) for their cue on their role as guest for how to be involved, cues for enjoyment, all the fun, laughter, smiles, and yes, even dancing. As an example, if the bride puts her head on the groom’s shoulder and has a warm smile during the first dance, everyone will “feel” the love, and the room will “melt.” Conversely, if the couple is awkwardly a foot or two apart and the bride has a “perma-frowns” on her face because she is upset about the color “burnt orange” flowers are a tad too orange (which actually happened), this sets a very different vibe for guests to tap into. So, what I’m about to say is very, very true: guests pick up on your vibe. Yes, when it comes to dancing: IF YOU DANCE, SO WILL YOUR GUESTS.
Generally speaking, most brides dance. However, if the groom decides to hang out on the deck or patio smoking a cigar with his best man, or hanging out at the bar with his buddies, and sadly, sometimes watching football or glued to his cell phone checking the latest fantasy football stats…there is only so much we can do. Your guests came to celebrate with the both of you! So, whatever you BOTH do, so will your guests!
The last comment about this….if you leave and expect the party to continue on without you, it won’t. Once you leave, guests will leave within ten minutes – guaranteed. Even if guests perceive you’ve left due to excessively long post ceremony photo, where we’ve seen sometimes an hour and a half to two hours and twenty minutes (we suggest 25 to 30 minutes maximum), or the abnormally long “wedding sunset shots” with a promise to take 5 minutes, but always tend to be 20 to 30 minutes right in the middle of the reception (which just happened this weekend once again), guests will always leave. Guest came to celebrate with you. You are the guests of honor.
Guest will ALWAYS FOLLOW WHAT THE BRIDE & GROOM DO!
So, the three secrets to make your Colorado wedding celebration the best are pretty simple: relax, hire great Colorado wedding professionals, and trust all of us to do what we do best. Have fun and enjoy your wedding day! Eat a great meal, and make sure you eat throughout the day. (Guys – make sure she eats! This is your number one job that day!) Lastly, be the thermostat and set the vibe for fun, celebration, smiles, laughter, joy and dancing on your day.
Make a statement or tell your story.
Showcase your own style.
Brand your wedding.
CREATE memories together!
Matt Martindale – Amore’ DJ Entertainment, Wedding Lighting & Décor, Interactive Photo Booth
*Professional Wedding MC / 13 Time Award Winning Colorado Wedding DJ Expert™
*WeddingWire Bride’s Choice Award Winner (Top 5 percent of all Wedding Professionals Nationally)